Tom writes: Call me clueless. I have had a brother for most of my life, one with whom I share a strong relationship, so I should know this. But it has really surprised (ans pleased) me to watch James and Joseph that becoming brothers is a process add much as it is a family arrangement. And they are doing it. James will do crazy things to make Joseph laugh, and he can draw a laugh out of Joseph better than anyone else. Joseph, for his part, adores James. I heard this exchange on the way to church today. I wasn't paying attention at first, but once I did I realized I was hearing something new.