Marriage: One Year
Lisa writes: Here's to one wonderful year, and many more!
Tom adds: Amen to that! Now that the earth has circled around the sun one full rotation since we have been married, we can speak with, um, full authority on what it takes for a marriage to work out. So far, we can identify some activities, attitudes, and tricks.
1) Marry the right person. (If you are dating someone right now and are not sure, this probably indicates that it is the wrong person or the wrong time.)
2) Find what works and keep doing it. Good things build on other good things, just as bad things build on other bad things.
3) Pretty much all arguments are just the same argument, just with different details. They stem from differences in your basic personalities. When they spring up, you can choose between growing together and striving to reconcile or you can choose to allow the separation to grow. Also, animosity does not withstand sincere prayer for very long.
4) When something is bothering you, especially something that you are ashamed of or afraid of and you want to keep it to yourself, it is probably good to talk about it with your spouse. My experience has been that Lisa sees through my fears far better than I do, and I suspect that she would say the same about me. By sharing even your fears, you discover that you are not alone.
There are probably lots of other things, too, but I'll call that a good start ;-)
Tom adds: Amen to that! Now that the earth has circled around the sun one full rotation since we have been married, we can speak with, um, full authority on what it takes for a marriage to work out. So far, we can identify some activities, attitudes, and tricks.
1) Marry the right person. (If you are dating someone right now and are not sure, this probably indicates that it is the wrong person or the wrong time.)
2) Find what works and keep doing it. Good things build on other good things, just as bad things build on other bad things.
3) Pretty much all arguments are just the same argument, just with different details. They stem from differences in your basic personalities. When they spring up, you can choose between growing together and striving to reconcile or you can choose to allow the separation to grow. Also, animosity does not withstand sincere prayer for very long.
4) When something is bothering you, especially something that you are ashamed of or afraid of and you want to keep it to yourself, it is probably good to talk about it with your spouse. My experience has been that Lisa sees through my fears far better than I do, and I suspect that she would say the same about me. By sharing even your fears, you discover that you are not alone.
There are probably lots of other things, too, but I'll call that a good start ;-)
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